Tuesday, April 17, 2018

ARE YOUR ACTIONS CONGRUENT IN YOUR CORE VALUES?

Welcome back my blogging personas!!!

I'm back and I'm excited to discuss with you about today's leadership development topic based on the Social Change Model.

Based on the Social Change Model (diagram below), we've already knocked out the subcomponent titled "Consciousness of Self" from the individual perspective by identifying your top 3 core values.



In this blog post, we will be focusing on the two subcomponents "Commitment" and "Congruence." In this leadership development activity for this blog post, the goal is to find out how often we abide by our core values. Our personal values are more than just words you really like. Our personal values drive our day to day decisions. They are the basic beliefs that determine how we interact in the world. Have you ever considered how your personal values impact the way you navigate the world? Check out the chart provided below followed by one of my core values as an example.

Please write your 3 core values below:
What are some beliefs and/or assumptions you hold because of this value?
What behavior(s) do you exhibit relative to this value?
Can you think of a time that you had a conflict with someone else related to a difference in core values?
Communication




  • A lot of conflicts and tension in relationships, whether it be between you and a friend, significant other, boss from work, team projects, teacher etc., seem to  arise when there's lack of clear and direct communication, which I notice leads to unhealthy relationships

  • Communication is critical and key to not just only success, but for one's mental health as well

  • the more direct communication is, the healthier the relationship, and/or the quicker the situation will be resolved, which'll lead to greater relief sooner
    • I'm a person who loves to learn. Therefore, I always ask questions when I want to understand something until I feel much more confident or relieved about a topic or situations


    • I observe people's non verbal cues in a conversation such as body language, tone of voice, hand gestures, actions, etc., so that I have a bettering understanding of how they truly feel about a topic 
    Sometimes whenever I ask too many questions, it'll sometimes be at the wrong time when other's may be on a time-crunch. Therefore tension and frustration may be developed in the other. The other person could perceive me as annoying, or being incompetent, or just trying to be difficult. 

    Some things are easier said than done. How do you directly tell someone that you're about to fire them? How do you directly tell someone that you want to break up with them, because you just simply lost interest in them? 

    As someone who has auditory processing, direct communication is critical. The more clear and direct communication is to me, the better and more relieved I feel about myself and the situation. 

    CORE VALUE #2








     CORE VALUE #3 










    Now, write out what a general weekly complete schedule is like for you. Observe, reflect, and ask yourself if your weekly actions are congruent in your core values. You know what they say, actions speak louder than words.

    TaTa for now!

    XOXO,
    MW